And the examples given by you - just my mother is not all well in life and she is upset. This is not terrible, it is temporary.

The last 30 years have been annoying. Not scary, but temporarily.
Only the misfortune, when she was about to die - nobody wanted to fight with her.
Well, there was such a time, loved ones were all annoyed and they probably didn't have everything well in life. Do not spit in the well. A plunge (manipulation, substitution of concepts, exploitation) - be prepared for the consequences.