An interesting theory was presented today by my colleague.

He says, I try to please everyone at work. And always bad, and you, on the contrary, put on everyone, and always good. Why so? Your model of behavior for others looks like this: you never show initiative, you do not agree to work if it is not part of your responsibilities, and people get used to it. That is, people get used to the fact that this is your normal state. You are such. It is perceived as a given. And then you have helped someone in a good mood, and you are already good. And they remember exactly that. That is, you are normal, normal, and then good.

And I am the opposite. I try to please everyone. I do what I owe and what I do not. I refuse no one. People are accustomed to it. This is also the norm in my case. This is my normal state, and people don’t even pay attention to it. It is perceived as a given. This is my normal behavior. And then, suddenly, I refuse to help someone. A man is offending me. He condemns behind his back. I am bad. That is, there’s also – I’m normal, normal, and then bad.

Do you understand?

You are normal, normal, and then good.

I am normal, normal, and then bad.

This is exactly what they remember.

I listened to him. Yes, he’s overwhelmed, but in something he’s right.