My husband has an older brother. He has three children, but he has never been large. Two girls from the first wife he divorced when they were young, from the second wife a son was born when they were already adults. He lives in Kazakhstan and has visited us a couple of times over the past few years. From the boy (he will be 14 this year) a double such impression - stupid, interested, but absolutely underdeveloped. Well, elementary things does not know, does not read anything, on excursions in 5 minutes sleeps. And I don't know, maybe there the mother can give nothing (I don't know - I never saw her), but the father (brother of the husband) can quite well - and in / o, and read something, and knows a lot. Just some time-spending except for feasts and fishing in principle is not accepted.
When my husband tells us about our children - that they went there, went to a museum, worked there, won the Olympics (although my children according to my standards and the standards of the families around us are not the benchmark), he is always with a shade of indulgence - well, this is Olya (I) - a type of foolishness.
And now I know we’re waiting for the fifth. Reaction: "What are you doing? You have to think with your head! It is easy to give birth (ah, he gave birth : crazy : )". We say "What is not easy? The state has provided us, thanks to him. Eating and feeding" And he said: "And what is there to feed - it is necessary to engage with children, and to give education!" :facepalm:
No cognitive dissonance.