For the first time I met this idea in the book of Bernard Weber, The Empire of Angels. Among other stories there was the story of a girl who found her love, lived an incredibly happy life, and then died and appeared at the “terrible” court. So, nobody put her the highest assessment for her lived life, although, it would seem, everything in her went so wonderfully. But no, the judges explained, falling in love and surrendering to the will of happiness, this woman did not develop in herself any of the pledged talents, and in fact her life, her coming to the earth, spent in vain, did not perform anything of the assigned.

Then in the collection of aforisms I saw the phrase of Faina Ranevskaya. The family replaces everything. Therefore, before you start it, it is worth thinking about what is more important to you: everything or the family.