Such "luckers" simply don't get brides at all and don't shake women's heads, knowing that they are not capable of a relationship in advance. Read "The Wise Sandstone" about successfully avoiding everything at all. And to build a relationship with someone, at the same time holding a figure in your pocket "he / she is just waiting, as if behind my back someone to fuck, I know" - it is not even paranoia, it is a moral garden-maso, in which the goal is to torture yourself and your partner as unbearable as possible.