While reading a book about depression, I came across a theory by Swedish clinic Marie Osberg, which the author calls “The Wheel of Exhaustion.” This theory seemed to me extremely important and interesting.



Its essence is what each person has experienced to a greater or lesser extent on himself. And many of us are still experiencing it right now.



The theory says that in a situation when a person increases the number of responsibilities, the number of necessary things, the first reaction that shapes our behavior is to give up not so significant things, not so urgent and important, in favor of the most important things.



And the paradox is that the most unimportant things will be... yes! They are the ones that give us strength, resources, energy and inspiration.



A parent to whom affairs are filled up and filled up adds and adds extremely important routines and vital responsibilities - to feed, care, work, pay bills, buy foods, observe hygiene, treat, teach, endlessly give and care... So this parent will start making choices every day. Choice in favor of these important cases. Leaving as not demanding urgency, as those to which you can return later, things that of course sound not so significant - meetings with friends, walks by the sea, music in silence, bathroom with foam, a romantic evening with a loved one, creativity, dancing (continue from your list).



And the paradox is that by abandoning things from this list, a person loses sources of rechargeable energy, sources of inspiration, does not recharge their batteries and batteries, but only draws, draws, draws, as if there is something infinite.



And then the new circle - less and less energy, you need to leave the most important thing. Again, it’s a minus of fun and pleasure. After all, it can wait... and a new wave of loss of strength. And so to the bottom...



Unfortunately, among parents, especially babies, several babies, children requiring special attention, this process occurs too often. There is no time for a cross. It is not so important to walk with friends around the city, and you can wash without foam and music, and the dinner can be prepared not from the source of creativity, but from the point of necessity, as in the joke - what is the soup? With the last strength...



Knowledge of this algorithm is very important. Every time you cancel what gives you creativity and gives you energy, remember this picture. He is a whirlwind, he is a waterwreck, he sows and acts very deeply and imperceptibly. But it is always so, to the bottom.

You need to know this, in order to prioritize to maintain balance, leaving the same nonsense and nonsense, without which it only seems that you can live. In fact, they give us energy and strength. They make us :)