As we are talking about virginity and infidelity...

I am 32 years old, have two children and have not had a husband for three years. By default, I am considered to be among my peers-holograms "b/u", "dirty goods", "titty with a trailer" and so on, but if you mention that I am not in divorce, but a widow - I immediately become in the eyes of the same people an excellent candidate for relationships, and my children from "spin-grizzly" suddenly turn into "unhappy babies", who need to give a candy / apple and sympathize. Verified several times. The nature of the phenomenon is not very clear to me.