You have to behave so that you want to protect.
And not to demand, to melt their feet and scream that all the men are goats.
When you understand that no one owes anything to women, then you will wire around your husband, love and fulfill all his lusts. And then he will, accordingly, yours.

The shield? No one owes anything to anyone, but at the same time you need to wrap around the man and lick him so that he (per) starts licking you in response? Do you see nothing mutually exclusive?