This is what you need to be, I'm sorry, the last TP to get married, and the main thing is to give birth to a child who is beating you and your child is beating. And after all, they always have the fault of the father in the situation, and those who advise to suffer are guilty - everyone is guilty except her. Per the brain is more important to men and children?

And yes, I am a girl. I just had enough brains to marry someone I’t have to drive out from anywhere. I am jealous =)

Having a brain is a good thing, but sometimes the brain itself gives out rather unpleasant tricks. First, when the thing is hit in the head, it can ruin. And not only from shock, but also from years of being in a stressful situation. Secondly, the brain of a child in the first years of life fixes the environment as the norm, and in the future does not want to reproduce this norm in one way or another. Rule "See how the father/mother of the chosen person behaves and think well" works.
Are you lucky with your parents? Or have you found the strength to recycle childhood trauma and not repeat the script? It’s great, but to pin those who came a little later than you were before is disgusting. Go to the traumatology, boast as you have nothing broken and does not hurt.