collect my money, take a loan that I am obliged to pay, buy a home and... everything. and Voila. I was not needed now.
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And how did it happen that the jointly purchased apartment - and even if the loan for it was in your name - could get the entire wife without any compensation for you? Especially if one of your children lives with you. (You could still leave all such a proud and noble, but not with one of the children "where to go"). It smells with the idea of a drama-social artistic novel that would be filled with reason.