The first rule. The most important. Build your own life and don’t teach others.
For example, "Everyone does everything for themselves". But here is an example from life: the wife is cooking food and the husband is washing dishes after eating. Is this family in trouble? Everyone is indebted to himself.
The clothes can be washed by the machine once a week. You do not need to wash them with soap every day.
To wash the bath? That is obvious. Could you recommend using a toilet? Your husband doesn’t do that and you’re angry? Get away from him! Did not leave? and tolerate!
But the key point is that the family itself determines who and what does (or does not do). It’s not your dog’s business to decide for them :)
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Once again. The last. It is already borrowed. This is not an obligation that is implicitly attached to a woman. It could be an agreement. It may be her voluntary wish. This is NOT an obligation!! You can’t expect this from any “baby in the house” simply by the fact of her gender. understandably?
p.s No, I don’t think that "this family has problems". I think the problem is in the story of a girl to whom two men smoothly transferred all their lives simply by the fact of her appearance in the house and the corresponding genitals. The problem is not that someone does not distribute responsibilities in their family in the way I would distribute them, but that it is considered silently that the whole of life is a “woman’s business.”