I had a mother-in-law, she also believed that her task was to force and raise me (sometimes this education even resembled training). Don’t you think that your puppy wants her to be loved, rather than ‘make her a man’? Moreover, if from your relatives this is still poorly tolerable, you still treat them somehow more tolerantly - then from strangers who don't even try to make friends with you, this only causes rejection and the desire to do nothing. Especially in adolescence. Do not treat her as “obedient/disobedient”, do not judge her from these positions. It’s so hard with her father, it’s always hard. Talk to her. You may not have to talk once. And, say not in the key "why you behave like that, you are a good girl", as this adult idiots love, but talk normally.