Now they go to the cinema, the cafe, the club, on a date - you see them so comfortable. Your appearance speaks about your self-esteem or the exact lack of it.

Are you stupid? If I walk in uncomfortable shoes, or a black suit in which I’m hot and sweat like a mouse, I have a high self-esteem.
And if I walk in comfortable shoes or in the heat in a light-blown suit, do I have low self-esteem?
You are stupid.