I have a grandmother. She smoked a lot throughout her life, and recently her leg was amputated. She suffered the loss of her leg very painfully, we all supported her as much as we could, especially her son-in-law, he always tried to encourage her in every way. That same son-in-law came to visit her, and his first words were: "Aunt, I will not understand, I will not come, you are getting smaller and smaller."