Skills and habits are what we are in the eyes of other people. In this same pile is the fact that your background (events that changed you) is known only to you and a couple or three more people; for the rest, you are exactly what you are at the moment. That is, for example, not a girl who learned to be a mother at the age of 16, but a mother-in-law girl; not a romantic who has broken down hard and repeatedly, but a cynic; less globally - not a woman who has flattered from night work, but an inadequate messy aunt, etc. Maybe this is obvious, but for me it has become a stunning discovery at the time. The good thing is that with this knowledge and other people can be looked at differently... differently, with assumptions.