>> And I know dozens of such families, where the wife lives for pleasure, and the husbands graze at work and at home.

I am 52 years old. I don’t know of a family where my wife doesn’t work. O"lives in his pleasure" and there is no word. At home only for the period of maternity leave; before and after - sheep as cursed. And yes, the house is almost all on them, the husbands help little.
Where do you get such wives?