The question is who runs faster in a difficult moment.
On Channel 5 (St. Petersburg) every Thursday there is an action to help sick children. In the morning program and in the news show the story about the child and his family. So, according to my observations, the father is present in one family of 10. Of course, some mother can give birth without her husband and take care of a sick child herself, but most often the father/husband merges slowly with the difficulties that arise. In the school where my child was studying, this happened with a large family with five (!!!) My father died when the youngest child had a serious illness. The money was collected by the whole school, both teachers and students (parents). It was hard for my dad, that is.