>>>>> Personally I am tired of repeating to my aunt, wife, and sister, and all the other very active counselors: "Tell me what to do, and how to do it, I will decide myself".

Personally, I very successfully weigh all relatives and sympathizers with the following tactics: when they say that it is necessary to do wrong, but this is the way, I answer: I did not understand, show how. Man shows, thus performing part of the work. I say no, I didn’t understand, show me again. It shows. Another part of the work is done. When on the third iteration I say, that, say, stupid, I did not understand, show again, then, depending on the stupidity of the showing, either show for the last time, or suspect the rise and roll off. I do my own way.)