About the "headership in the cat’s herd" I will pay my five copies.
Over the years of cat farming, I developed an unwavering method: when I see that the cat is completely squeezed and claims to be a leader - I tightly grab the skin on the hole, sit on my knees, the cat between my legs, but squeeze it and press it - so that it could not escape, but not crush it. I wait. Sometimes for a long time. If the caterpillar in the edge of the border, then it begins to swing and roar - here you have to turn somehow. As soon as the first complaint is pronounced "miu" - I release. I do not fit. In 90% of cases, within half an hour, this infection with murmuring is asked on the knees, suffocating the alpha :)