My mother led her educational processes, as she thought, her mother. Therefore, before my birth, my mother gave herself several attitudes and promised to always perform them. These principles were simple, but I can’t describe in words how they made my life easier. For example, the rule "never compare a child with anyone" - and I have never heard "but the neighbor's daughter is excellent!“Mary’s daughter is married!” This did not prevent me from getting a good education, finding a decent job, getting married, buying an apartment without the help of my parents. Another rule "you can only punish once" - and if I broke the vase, for example, I got an excuse, and everyone forgot about it, and there were no reproaches and attempts to shame in the future. Another principle “a child should have his own opinion” – when I was asked what I wanted, my choice was never ridiculed or denounced. Among all the variety of ice cream I want a fist? My mom thought it was unpleasant, but I bought it, while other mothers persuaded the kids to take strawberries or vanilla. You don’t like Pushkin, but you love the Brothers Grimm? Well, Grimm is so Grimm, without any kind of "catch up, Grimm only kids like, and you are 12!“”