The Domestic Makarenko:

A friend with a daughter came to visit. My daughter is small, 10 years old. I have my daughter on the couch to calmly eat the cake and put herself in the bowl. and clean. I go to them to dress up. Two pairs of eyes look at me. Young people - with the enthusiasm of the winner, adults - with the broken pattern...
The morality? Everyone decides how to do cleanliness and to what level. I can walk from the street to the bedroom in my shoes. I have allowed.

There is such a principle of pedagogy: uniformity of influence (school, parents, etc.). He was not invented as an idiot. And he is about the fact that the upbringing of the child is carried out in a single direction. Towards one goal for all participants. Never and under no circumstances should the authority of parents be undermined in the eyes of their child. And you are doing this for selfish reasons: you are looking for popularity in the child by devaluing the prohibitive measures of the parents. Prohibitions are not always bad, permission is not always good. You do not fully understand the distant consequences of your actions, and this lightheartedness is understandable – because you are trying to raise not your children.