The gender-shmer
As for the forums, I was very close to signing with a female name all the way and not hiding it at all, because in most cases men remember that they are stronger and smarter and seek to help the lady in any matter. And considering that my youth passed on bicycle forums and in the crowd of those still padonkaff, on the "show breasts" there were three beads of sharp answers, cheering the respectable audience and not humiliating the owners of breasts. And just the widespread belief that girls are stupid, played very much on the hand, when a girl turns out to be smart, it broke the patterns and attracted boys. So girls, instead of suffering, read books and be smart, on the backdrop of stupid you will stand out even more.
In life, of course, everything is more difficult. My genderist once seriously said that a girl can be paid less for the same job than a boy, because a boy needs to earn, and a girl needs to have a earning boy. And here, of course, there is almost an impasse. There is an option to change jobs.