My ex-husband had many friends with whom he spent a lot of time (bad, garage, guests). Moreover, these friends were constantly crushed, they could not repay the debt, throw it in some situation, etc. But I was forbidden to tell him something bad about them because they were friends, friends and brothers and sisters in general! When we got married to him, there was a banquet, photo, music and everything as appropriate, we collected envelopes with gifts (we asked to donate only money). For the sake of interest, I separated the envelopes of my friends and relatives and his friends (I put a few boxes to collect the envelopes). How angry he was when we began to deal with them, his friends gave a thousand rubles (some even for two), and three envelopes were just empty. I did not even expect that.

Filter your surroundings.