It’s possible that she really thinks she’s doing a lot for you, but you don’t perceive it that way. And she may also not perceive something you do for her as important. People are different.
I’ve been in a happy marriage for 8 years, and I can say with certainty – the main thing is to talk. very much. About everything. Speak about what is not suitable, what problems, who sees what situation, who is offended, and what solutions can be found.

There is another side: to ruin a relationship, it is enough to start finding out them. People are different.