Relating to the former:
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Have you consulted a person before making a decision about his life? "Yatakresilasa, but now it is your head will hurt how to solve this problem"
I propose to put “mama” on the spot, buying the child and her ticket to the entrance to Disneyland, for “tomorrow”. Give the child to the mother. Let herself explain why she can’t take her child to Paris by paying for the plane and hotel tickets, and getting a Schengen visa in 12 hours. Do not punish the child with disagreements with the former, and when she breaks out for five minutes, offer to take the child to himself, for example, in a month. Would you want to go too? Let yourself travel and documents, it is not for her, but "for the child".
The child cannot say no, let him learn not to say yes.
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Fighting with the former is like throwing a shit: even if it melted, it was all gone. Minimize communication to "hello/so far/understand yourself" - and you will be happy. If you are a good father, regularly see your child and he sees that you are not a fool - no sting will convince him. If you’re stupid, don’t you care?